When you think about trust, what comes to mind? I think trust is the belief that someone will act honestly, ethically, and with a level of predictability, even when there is an element of uncertainty involved. While our capacity for trust may be an innate human trait, the development of it may feel like an unnatural process.

When our sense of safety and security feels threatened, trust issues can arise. And let’s face it, in our uncertain world, trust can be fleeting. Building and maintaining trust is a continual effort and commitment to the process of developing healthy relationships. It's essential to be trustworthy yourself and to choose to trust others while being cautious in your judgments and expectations. When trust is broken, it’s almost impossible to rebuild.

Trust often involves vulnerability.

When you trust someone, you are willing to expose your thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities without fear of judgment or betrayal. In my opinion, no one speaks the language of vulnerability better than Brené Brown.

I first learned of Brené in 2008 or 2009. She came to Cambridge elementary school in Alamo Heights (San Antonio) to give a presentation in the auditorium. My oldest son attended fifth grade there, and a notification was sent to all families announcing the event. Around this time, my trust had been shattered and I was unsure of what I knew about life and family. I left that evening with restored hope and a new perspective on a hidden super-power—vulnerability.

A couple of years later, Brené gave a talk (that went viral) and elaborated on themes from her previous presentation. Here is that recorded TED Talk: The Power of Vulnerability.

During these times of uncertainty, misunderstandings, and cruelty towards one another, may you wholeheartedly embrace your own vulnerability and find connection through self-compassion.